Thursday, July 21, 2011

Grace...It is the Heart of the Gospel...and Parenting

I am reminded by Elyse Fitzpatrick, in her book, Give Them Grace, "Salvation is of the Lord."

I believe this with all my heart, and yet, so many times in parenting I act contrary.

She says in regard to parenting, "We are always to do our best, striving to be obedient and to love, nurture, and discipline them. But, we are to do it with the faith in the Lord's ability to transform hearts, not in our ability to be consistent or faithful. Seeking to be faithfully obedient parents is our responsibility; granting faith to our children is His. Freedom to love and enjoy our children flows out of the knowledge that God saves them in spite of our best efforts, not because of them. Salvation is of the Lord."

So I ask myself, "Do I see myself as an instrument of the Lord, or am I so many times more worried about my kids being 'good'?"

And Elyse makes me ask myself this: "How can we know whether we're trying to obligate God or serve Him in gratitude? One way to judge is to consider your reaction when your children fail. If you are angry, frustrated, or despairing because you work so hard and they aren't responding, then you're working (at least in part) for the wrong reasons. Conversely, if you're proud when your children obey and you get those desired kudos- Oh! your kids are so good!- you should suspect your motives. Both pride and despair grow in the self-reliant heart."

Just today, we were out shopping, and I heard it: "You have the best shoppers in the whole store." My thoughts went immediately to: "This is an opportunity to speak about the Lord." But , alas, I didn't. After my head shrunk down to its original size, the Lord spoke to my heart.

"None of you...all of me." If I am not the reason your children are obeying, then who cares. Goodness will get them no where."

Grace. I want my precious treasures to know this.


Treasures Evermore said...

Oh boy...I sure need to read and re-read this post...has got me thinking and pondering . Don't even know what else to say.

I I AM falling short in this area. Yikes!!!! I think I need this book.

Thanks for posting this...needed right now.

Continuing to pray for Hoss.

Treasures Evermore said...

Thank you for your prayers....our little grandson has so many diagnosis...but nothing concrete.

They have it as silent reflux...allergies to almost everything except air (sarcasm)...gastrointestinal blah, blah.

Doctors are stumped....Ped's are stumped...and now trying ND.

He is in constant pain...can old sleep 15-30 minutes at a time without waking up with shooting stomach pains....then he either is so constipated or diarrhea everywhere...nothing consistant or normal.

Yesterday the consipation was so bad that he screamed for about 20 minutes...we had in in the bathtub where he had to po* in the tub...kept changing the water while he screamed...put in glycerine suppository but he just pushed it out...and here we all are watching this and nothing worked...didn't even think to stop and pray

DD doesn't want to pray anymore as she says that everytime she prays it gets worse...defeated is an understatement for my dd.

He's been in the emergency room 3 times...the last time he projectile vomited through his nose and some got stuck and he couldn't breath...turned blue and then grey...doctors did nothing...said he was gaining weight and looked good...sent us home arg!!!!

Running out of have him on goats white grape juice...and tonnes of bifidus and 8 other drops that go in his bottles.

Sorry I typed so long.

Thank you for your prayers...probably the only thing holding me together.